Coming from someone who HATES being the center of attention, I know anxiety can be a real factor when it comes to your wedding day. Many brides eagerly await their moment in the spotlight, but this is not the case for introverted brides. As much as you want to feel loved and celebrated on your special day, the idea of having 100 plus eyes narrowed on you can cause some serious stress. This is natural and should be expected, but most importantly, there is nothing wrong with feeling this way. It is my job to distract your nerves and make sure you feel at ease and comfortable with all the decisions made. While working with some awesome introverted brides, I gained useful tips on how to minimize the attention of your guests and make it even more about you and your soon to be husband (or wife)!
First looks not only allow the couple to get a bulk of their photos done prior to the ceremony, but it also enables the couple to have a big moment become very intimate. You can do it with your bridal party watching nearby or on your own, it is totally up to you and whatever YOU are comfortable with. Your photographer and videographer will be there to capture every moment, while giving you and your partner a chance to spend meaningful time together before the madness begins.
If you or your significant other are opposed to doing a first look, then a first touch could be the perfect thing for you! A first touch would be done prior to the ceremony, in which you could feel and talk to each other without taking away from the initial first glance of the bride walking down the aisle. It could give both partners a sense of peace and familiarity before heading into the ceremony.
If the idea of reading in front of a bunch of people makes you want to faint (like myself), then I suggest exchanging vows prior to the ceremony. You can recite them to one another after you have completed the first look. I recently had a couple choose this option and they were able to have a more private and personalized experience for them. I think it is the perfect option for a more introverted bride or couple in general, and a sweet memory to go along with their big day.
A private dinner is also a great option to spend personal time with your husband or partner once the festivities have begun. The guests will be busy mingling with friends and family and focusing on the delicious food, while you and your significant other can eat and spend quality time together in a private location nearby. Although this option is unique compared to a traditional reception, it creates an intimate and romantic moment away from your family and friends.
One of the last things I would recommend for introverted brides, would be to cut off some of the “expected” formalities of a traditional wedding. I always recommend doing a first dance, but maybe you could cut out the bouquet and garter toss. The less you would need to be announced by your DJ, the better!
Your wedding day is exactly what I just mentioned, YOUR wedding day. Make it your own, and let your personality be the driving force behind your planning. Do not feel pressured to do the “norm”, because you never want to look back on your special day and feel any regret at all.
Photo Credit: Yana Shellman Photography